quotes tagged with 'criticize'

These are some of the ways of handling insecurity:  avoid situations that may reveal one's self-doubting and insecurity; either move away and escape, or fight, criticize, and find fault with others - leaders, programs, or self - to avoid confronting the real problem inside.


An enormous responsibility rests upon us to communcate effectively, and because of this responsibility, self-doubts and insecurities within can rise to the surface until one of the two approaches is taken:  escape and withdraw; or fight, criticize, and find fault. Find the mote (weakness) in your husband's (or wife's) eye and focus on it until that view obscures the view of the beam (weakness) in your own eye. This makes it almost impossible to clearly see or to effectively give help. Or withdraw, saying, "I don't want to communicate. I have nothing to say - nothing to talk about." That is an escape! Or else compensate for your insecurity by focusing on security from the outside - clothes, styling, and membership in select groups - inwardly saying, "These things can compensate for my own feeling of insecurity and make me feel adequate and more secure."


I suggest that none of this works upon the roots at all. None of it works with the underlying causes of strife or of peace. I suggest that the world doesn't know fully what those roots are - those deep spiritual roots which, if exercised, fed, and nourished, could bring about a great internal feeling of security and peace so that, in turn, out of that internal strength and anchorage will flow the ability to be a peacemaker in our relationships with others, particularly when the storms descend.


In my judgement, too much present-day thinking regarding communication is based upon a sunshine philosophy. When the sun is shining and things are going wonderfully, people can communicate easily, naturally, and effectively, but the moment the storms descend (and they descend almost every day on all of our lives in one way or anoteher - at least little storms:  conflicting expectations, economic pressures, conditions of stress, time pressures, etc.) we lose our temper, shout out, condemn, do some things that we would never think of doing when the sun is shining.


But sooner or later the stoms come. Then our self doubts surface and relationship problems commence and communication breaks down.

Author: Stephen R. Covey, Source: "Spiritual Roots of Human Relations", Deseret Book 1970 - 8th printing, p. 178 -180Saved by mlsscaress in fight strength communication peace criticize escape anchor strife selfdoubt insecurities 11 years ago[save this] [permalink]
Each one of us will travel a different road during this life. Each progresses at a different rate. Temptations that trouble your brother may not challenge you at all. Strengths that you possess may seem impossible to another.

Never look down on those who are less perfect than you. Don’t be upset because someone can’t sew as well as you, can’t throw as well as you, can’t row or hoe as well as you.

We are all children of our Heavenly Father. And we are here with the same purpose: to learn to love Him with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves.

One way you can measure your value in the kingdom of God is to ask, “How well am I doing in helping others reach their potential? Do I support others in the Church, or do I criticize them?”

If you are criticizing others, you are weakening the Church. If you are building others, you are building the kingdom of God. As Heavenly Father is kind, we also should be kind to others.
Author: Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin , Source: The Virtue of Kindness, Liahona, May 2005, 26–28. http://www.l...Saved by mlsscaress in support progress strength criticize love purpose kindness challenges weak 12 years ago[save this] [permalink]
A quality person will murmur not. He will not find fault or criticize, belittle, or nag. When I think of those who are examples of proficient murmuring on a continuing basis, I think of Laman and Lemuel in the Book of Mormon. By contrast I admire Nephi, who never murmured. Instead he was positive and had no time for contention, discouragement, or apathy.

Someone has wisely stated that hate is not the opposite of love. Apathy is. We will not have time for apathy in life’s journey if we speak and think positively. Seek, search, and work for worthy eternal qualities and friends.
Author: Marvin J. Ashton, Source: http://lds.org/portal/site/LDSOrg/menuitem.b12f9d18fae655bb690...Saved by cboyack in apathy criticize love criticism murmur act nag 13 years ago[save this] [permalink]
Our critics at home and abroad are watching us. In an effort to find fault, they listen to every word we say, hoping to entrap us. We may stumble now and again. But the work will not be materially hindered. We will stand up where we fell and go forward.
Author: Gordon B. Hinckley, Source: http://www.lds.org/conference/talk/display/0,5232,23-1-64-33,0...Saved by cboyack in fight evil opposition criticize fault criticism critic ensnare trap hinder observe 13 years ago[save this] [permalink]
I have given much advice to the Latter-day Saints in my time, and one of the principal items was never to criticize any one but ourselves. I believe in fault-finding for breakfast, dinner and supper, but with our own dear selves.
Author: Heber J. Grant, Source: LDS General Conference, April 1902Saved by cboyack in progress development criticize repentance mistake fault advice introspection 13 years ago[save this] [permalink]
Before you speak, listen. Before you write, think. Before you spend, earn. Before you invest, investigate. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try. Before you retire, save. Before you die, give.
Author: William A. Ward, Source: UnknownSaved by cboyack in speak listen write think spend earn invest investigate criticize wait pray forgive quit try retire save die give 13 years ago[save this] [permalink]

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