If you come at me with your fists doubled, I think I can promise you that mine will double as fast as yours; but if you come to me and say, 'let us sit down and take counsel together, and, if we differ from each other, understand why it is that we differ, just what the points at issue are,' we will presently find that we are not so far apart after all, that the points on which we differ are few and the points on which we agree are many, and that if we only have the patience and the candor, and the desire to get together, we will get together.
When we are right, let's try to win people tactfully and gently to our way of thinking; and when we are wrong-- and that will be surprisingly often, if we are honest with ourselves-- let's admit our mistakes quickly and with enthusiasm. Not only will that technique produce some astonishing results; but believe it or not, it is a lot more fun, under the circumstances, than trying to defend oneself.
By fighting, you never get enough. By yielding, you get more than you expected.
I have found it of enormous value when I permit myself to understand the other person.
You will never get into any trouble by admitting that you are wrong. that will stop all argument and inspire your opponent to be just as fair and open and broad-minded as you are. It will make him want to admit that he, too, may be wrong.
If there is any one secret to success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.
I never once argued with an opponent except that I made dua to Allah to show me the truth on his lips.
I know a few of the reasons why the Lord requires us to listen to mortal servants. One of the reasons is that you and I need a check on our own inspiration occasionally. We can be mistaken. We at times, even with real intent and with faith and with careful prayer, may come to wrong conclusions. Listening to others can provide correction. It can promote more careful consideration. I hope you will always remember that there is safety in counsel.
Lift Where You Stand
President Dieter F. Uchtdorf
Some Want to Lead, Others Want to Hide
Although it may seem simple, lifting where we stand is a principle of power. Most of the priesthood bearers I know understand and live by this principle. They are eager to roll up their sleeves and go to work, whatever that work might be. They faithfully perform their priesthood duties. They magnify their callings. They serve the Lord by serving others. They stand close together and lift where they stand.
However, there are those who sometimes struggle with this concept. And when they do, they seem to fall into one of two camps: either they seek to lead, or they seek to hide. They covet a crown or a cave.
Oddly enough, often the root cause of both of these tendencies—seeking to lead or seeking to hide—may be the same: selfishness.
Brethren, may we cease to aspire and cease to retire!